Last Updated on August 31, 2020

So here you are, considering a different future for your relationship. You can picture yourself experiencing lots of passionate sex, laughter, fun, and a deeper connection with the person you love. You feel ready to unlock the door, hoping that it opens to a room full of new possibilities. 

Your sex life is probably not what it used to be, or maybe it has never been what you’ve wanted it to be. You know deep down that you have barely touched the surface, you have so much untapped potential. Now is the time for you to focus on your sex life and your relationship. 

You are ready to re-connect in ways you had only imagined and you know that working with a sex coach will get you there.


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Maybe you have been on this site numerous times; perhaps we have even spoken on the phone. You have started imagining and dreaming about your new sex life, but there’s one big block. 

You have no clue how to talk and enroll your partner into something like this. After all, it is a little unnerving; you are about to shake things up. What if he/she would judge you for wanting to try something new?

MY THREE-STEPS FORMULA

1. Become Clear About Your Intentions.

Why are you seeking help with your sex life? Whether it is to gain new knowledge, have a more fulfilling sex life, or enhance your sexual skills and be a better lover, what are your exact motivations?

So let’s say you want to be more in touch with your feelings–why do you want that? Maybe it’s because you want to connect with your partner emotionally so you both can be felt, seen, and heard. 

Or maybe you want to find a way to match up your libido together, as you are tired of struggling with not having sex as often as you wish. When you can be in sync sexually, it betters your level of fulfillment; this means you can go and conquer your business life and have so much more energy to spend. 

Most importantly, connect with what are you hoping to get out of it by figuring out what the real driver is for you. Often, our first answer is our mind speaking, then when we go for a second round, our heart kicks in and it is much more authentic.

2. Figure Out What You Appreciate in Your Relationship.

Because you are about to share something that could be potentially scary or emotionally triggering, make sure to add some care and love by appreciating what you already have in your relationship. 

You don’t have to reinvent the wheel–choose to see the little things that your partner does that sparks your happiness. Genuine appreciation is about seeing yourself more clearly, and about what the other person is doing that makes you feel better.

Or maybe it’s the fact that you share the same values. 


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3. Picture Your Life After Working With a Sex Coach.

How would you like to create your relationship? What kind of human do you see yourself being? How do you show up for your partner? 

Create this compelling vision that no one (not even you) can resist. Include your partner in it and imagine something you would wish for them. 

Put it All Together

You have all the steps, and now you need to put them together. I would suggest recording them somehow, either by writing them down or making an audio note (thanks to technology, it can make this process so much easier and faster than before). 

Here’s how we are going to put them together. We are creating a “sandwich” with the tricky part.

First, start with all the things you appreciate about the relationship (aka positive bread).
Second, insert why you want to see a sex coach (that’s the meaty part).
Third, end with your breathtaking vision of the positive future you can see for the two of you (aka positive bread). 

Schedule a time with your partner to talk about it; don’t just drop a bomb in the middle of dinner. Tell your beloved that you want to discuss something dear to your heart in hopes of bringing you closer together.

When you are done with your share, listen to her/his feelings and reaction. Give her/him some space to think it over, or maybe even show them this site and then co-create a solution that excites you both.

Everything is possible, and everything can be changed. 

I can guarantee you that working with a sex coach will change your love life for the better.

Curious about what working together would do for you? Apply for a strategy call with me.