Last Updated on August 31, 2020

Before you can fully satisfy a woman in bed,  you have to master your own body and mind. You must have the proper physical skills, such as the ability to have a strong erection and separate your orgasm from your ejaculation.

But, you should also have the mental skills–these include being fully present and having a winning mindset. 

You’ve got to let go of your disempowering belief systems and poor habits so that you can show up powerfully for your woman. You need to show up in a way that encourages her to be fully expressed. 

BECOMING A MASTER LOVER

Let me be frank with you: most women have never been close to experiencing their full sexual potential. Most women are being held back from their orgasmic capacities because most men–despite their good intentions–can’t take her on heightened waves of pleasure.

Most men don’t have the sustaining power to ride her extended orgasms. 

You might think that being a good lover is a noble goal. The truth is, being a good lover is nice. What you want to be is a badass lover. What’s a badass lover you ask?

A badass lover is a man who can excite and arouse a woman emotionally, physically, and energetically. He is a combination of the bad boy and the lover; strong yet soft, powerful yet compassionate. 

LET GO OF THE GOAL

First of all, you need to drop the self-centered, goal-oriented sex you’ve been having because, truthfully, it’s robbing you both from experiencing mind-blowing, multi-dimensional, fucking amazing sex. 

If you are both focused on the one obvious end-goal, you pretty much forget all about the present. You are either worried about the future or disappointed about the past. Remember: it’s all about the journey, not the destination. 


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For her to feel safe and trust you, she needs to feel your presence.

Without it, she can’t surrender to you and open up to higher levels orgasms. When you are anxious, distracted, or focusing on techniques solely, you are not fully there.

EXPAND YOUR SEXUAL SKILLS

Ejaculation control is a must, and it is a powerful way to transform both your life and hers. Separating your orgasms from your ejaculation will give you so much more freedom and truly increase your orgasmic potential. 

Having stronger, harder, more consistent erections is essential. When you know you can control your cock rather than being controlled by it, it shows. 

Not only do you emanate more confidence and power, but you will have the stamina to take her to the next level.

You want to turn your cock into a master cock, a cock that can take a woman to deeper and higher levels–one she somewhat knew existed, yet longed to experience.


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Understand that there’s more to sex than the physical. There’s a whole other subtle realm called energy. It’s about being receptive to what goes on in your partner “energetically” while listening and paying attention to the other person’s response to your touch.

You want to give your partner a pleasurable experience but go beyond the physical body. 

SERVE AS OPPOSED TO BEING SERVED

When you approach sex as a way to please her, approach it from an angle that is not from your fantasy, but of what she truly wants. When you bring both your body and sex to serve the feminine, you open the door to a myriad of possibilities. 

Want to know a secret? When you are extremely in touch with yourself, you can start feeling her through you. You can feel what’s beyond the words; you can feel the energy of the moment. Now that’s pretty badass!

THE POWER OF YOUR PRESENCE

Imagine a scenario where you are sweetly penetrating her, then all of the sudden, you notice something feels different. You’ve got three choices: 

1. You start focusing on what feels good to you because you’ve got your eyes on the prize.

The results of that option for you is a half-second of ecstasy followed by fatigue while she is either frustrated or relieved it is over. 

2. You continue, even though your guts tell you to shift things around.

I mean, that move did work the other day, after all, didn’t it? The result of this choice is most likely a sweet lovemaking session, but still a slightly bored woman. She wasn’t able to explore new depths, and neither of you is super-charged or passionate; you are content.

3. You shift gears and try another position, varying your speed and depth while observing her reaction.

You have no-agenda; simply following her bliss as the compass for the direction of the lovemaking. The result of this action is her opening up to a new realm of sensation and the lovemaking unfolding into the most intense, deep, and energetically wild ride of your life. Pure life-force energy is coursing through your veins, and you are both on fire and alive. 

Selfless agenda is the key to fantastic sex.